How to Attract a Cancer Man

Patricia Lantz C.Ht.
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No bright lights and city nights for a Cancer man; nor are they into hook-ups. So, if that's what you have in mind, you might not want to waste your efforts on a Cancer man. If, on the other hand, you're looking for a romance with a future, this is a guy worth attracting.

Be Assertive But Not Pushy

A Cancer man's ideal woman is a combination of refined beauty, grace, and intelligence. He's attracted to women who are classy, polite, wholesome and caring, but also assertive in a feminine way.

However, if you think he'll pursue you, you'll be disappointed. Cancer men are shy and hate the thought that they would be rejected, so put on your best feminine aura, and turn on the charm. You can:

  • Make friends with him.
  • Be willing to make the first steps in shifting from friendship to something more.
  • Forget about subtle hints; be direct and tell him what you want, but don't be pushy.

Invite Him to Dinner

It's said that the way to a Cancer man's heart is through his stomach and his family. Invite him to have dinner with you at your place; if you can cook, all the better.

Go Slow

Cancer men are a bit skittish when it comes to romance, so don't be in a hurry. If a Cancer guy agrees to spend time with you, trust that he's interested and he wants to get to know you.

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Be Nice to His Family and Friends

His family is vital to him, and he often views his friends as part of his family, so make sure you don't ignore or insult either. Getting to know his family and friends and having them like you can be one of the best ways to be welcomed into his life.

Talk About Your Family

Because romance is a family affair for a Cancer man, tell him about your family. Talk to him about your childhood and recall pleasant family memories. Also, let him know if you have dreams of a home and family of your own.

Talk About Your Career

A Cancer guy needs to feel secure. He is attracted to a woman who can take care of herself financially and has career plans for her future.

Don't Pry into His Life

They are secretive and will clam up if they sense you're prying, so don't ask too many personal questions, and don't tell him anything that someone else said to you in confidence. Get to know him through the flow of conversation. Always show a genuine interest in what he says, and once you've gained his trust, he'll open up.

Be Tactile

A Cancer man loves to be touched. A friendly hug or peck on the cheek when you meet and gently touching his shoulder or hand when you're talking will endear you to a Cancer man.

Empathize With Him

He needs a lot of attention and understanding. So, if he opens up to you, put aside your point of view and listen to him. Don't use clichés, don't be judgmental, and don't feel you have to make it all better. Be empathetic and connect with him on an emotional level.

Show a Little Vulnerability

Cancers like to assume the traditional male role, so ask him to help you in some small way or to give you advice or guidance. In doing this you're not only showing him respect, but you're also showing you trust him enough to make yourself vulnerable.

Be Willing to Pay Your Way

Money equals security to a guy with this sign, and he tends to be very careful with his money. He sees nothing wrong with a woman paying her way. Offer to split the check or pay for your ticket. He may decline, but he'll find you more attractive because you offered. Along those same lines, he is likely to start questioning his future with you if he believes you're careless with your money.

More Than Sun Sign Astrology

It is always important to remember that a Cancer man is much more than his sun sign. Every guy will be unique in his special way. Sun signs are relevant and fun, but defining a person by their sun sign only can often mislead you.

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How to Attract a Cancer Man