Aries Woman's Jealousy Towards Capricorn Man

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Fuming Aries Woman

Does an Aries woman get jealous? Absolutely! When her mate is a Capricorn man, the situation heats up. Two cardinal signs in incompatible elements, fire and earth, make for a volatile combination in an Aries female and Capricorn male relationship.

Dynamic Tension Between Aries Female and Capricorn Male

From the minute these two cardinal signs meet they challenge each other, and they turn one another on too. It's a recipe for insecurity, for despite (or perhaps because of) her feisty fire nature, an Aries woman can be suspicious in love. Depending on what else is going on in the rest of her chart, an Aries woman's jealous feelings might simmer in the background, or they might explode forth in unchecked blurts, but regardless, jealousy is a real problem for her.

Uncertain Beginnings

Aries is proud and sure of herself in life, but she can be insecure and defensive in love. She feels threatened by her lover's connections with other women, whether they are professional associates or casual friends, and even though Capricorn men are loyal and faithful, Aries cannot trust him at first. If she feels loved she is fine, but in a new relationship, she craves reassurance that she is desirable. In the beginning, everything feels threatening to her. She's scared of intimacy and when she lets her guard down, she wants to know for certain she is safe.

Capricorn Control Feeds Aries Insecurity

With a Capricorn man, only time can teach her to trust, for he can seem cold. He does not do it on purpose, nor is he unloving; he can't help it. It's in his earthy nature to be self-contained and practical. He sees nothing wrong with judging and evaluating his mate as he does everything and everyone else, but an Aries cannot stand to be judged. It makes her feel unwanted and unworthy. She must be loved for herself, as she is, or she cannot feel loved at all.

Capricorn must control and manipulate his reality. If he sees an area where his partner can improve herself, he does not hesitate to point it out to her, and he thinks this is helpful. After all, he welcomes critical feedback and uses it to understand how he can improve, so why shouldn't she? However, criticism to an Aries looks like a threat to her being, and it does not feel like love. The more insecure she is, the more she expects betrayal.

Aries Wants to Be First

Jealousy takes many forms. Aries resents anything that puts her second in her lover's priorities. She wants to be first in every way! Because Capricorn men are loyal and dependable in relationships, she has little cause to be jealous of other women (though she may not believe this until time proves it to her). However, his work will always be number one to a Capricorn. Love takes second place to him, but to Aries, with her Libra Earth, feeling loved is fundamental to her. Because it matters so much she fears losing it, and because she dislikes being afraid, she is may abandon her relationships before she can be dumped.

Anger Issues

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Her jealous rage can become toxic to herself and to her relationship. To deal with her feelings, Aries needs to work on her emotional well being. Anger is her main issue, and she must learn to feel and express her anger appropriately. A great way for an Aries to burn through anger is through intense physical activity. Working out, going for a run, or practising a demanding martial art are all excellent ways to allow the energy of anger to burn and vibrate free of her body.

Aries needs to make noise, shout it out, but she shouldn't try to express her anger in words. It is better for her to find a safe place to pound a pillow, to jump up and down, to throw an old fashioned temper tantrum. For Aries, this is profound spiritual work. The energy of suppressed jealous rage can poison her heart and make trust impossible. When she releases the energy through sound and movement, her mind can clear and she gains perspective.

Understanding Differences Between Aries and Capricorn

Aries needs to learn to love herself and to release Capricorn to follow his own imperatives. When she develops enough self-love to trust that she is lovable, she can stop demanding her mate's unconditional attention. This takes time and growth, but it is the right path for her. Until she loves herself, she won't believe that another could love her. She will watch for reasons to be jealous and insecure and poison the relationship with suspicion. To make the relationship work, Aries should accept and understand that her Capricorn man is a profoundly different person with unique drives and priorities.

Growing Up

Aries can be very childlike, but like a child, she will grow up. When the relationship has lasted a while and proven itself to her, her ability to trust becomes stronger. With time and experience and a strong foundation between them, the Aries woman gets past her jealousy and becomes a strong independent partner with her own interests and strengths. Through the turbulence of the early days of the relationship, she is able to grow in personal power and even if the relationship ends she retains that power. Her cardinal fiery nature gives her a great capacity for personal growth and change.

Capricorn's Role

The Capricorn man must understand that his mate's need for reassurance and loving attention is real, at least in the beginning of the relationship and for as long as necessary. If he loves her, he should tell her so often. To give romantic attention to his mate is not natural for Capricorn, who is pragmatic and necessity-driven. He is capable of empathy and compassion (his Earth is in Cancer), and he loves a challenge. Once he views his relationship as a problem requiring that he develop a particular skill set, he can motivate himself to improve there as he does in other areas of life. His innate capacity for patience and perseverence will serve him well.

Staying Power

Once she meets the challenge of integrating her jealousy and accepting responsibility for her own experience, an Aries woman and a Capricorn man can be wonderful together. Their Suns and Earths combined create a Grand Cross, which is a balancing and stabilizing configuration. Their differences may be divisive at first, but when they learn to resolve them and grow to accept one another for who they are, they have tremendous staying power in love.

Aries Woman's Jealousy Towards Capricorn Man