An Aquarius man in love with an Aries woman can be a beautiful thing. You might say Aquarius was made for love, the universal sort that is. Aquarians can love all of humanity, but they have a hard time with individuals! How does it work out when an Aquarius man loves a self-willed, fiery Aries woman?
Aquarius Is an Idealist
You'll never find a friendlier, more charming guy than Aquarius. The ideals of love, freedom and equality inspire him; he is a champion of rights for human and animal. This sign exhibits more 'Ah-ha!' moments per individual than any other signature in astrology. His key phrase is 'I know,' and he does, but what he knows is the ideal and not the reality. For him, ideals will trump the real every time. He hates to have his ideals punctured.
When an Aquarius man sets his heart on love, he loves not the woman herself, but the ideal he imagines her to be. His eyes and heart are in the skies. He needs to find a woman who can identify with her ideal self, who seeks self-perfection and therefore can feel loved by his projected ideal.
Aries Is Self-Centred
To call an Aries woman self-centred is not an insult. Her key phrase is 'I am.' She is centred in herself and she sees nothing wrong with that. She has the arrogant self-regard of a healthy child who expects to be loved just as she is. A typical Aries woman is flattered at first by being placed on a pedestal, but that phase does not last long. She is far too impatient and active to be content resting there. Before long, she jumps off to do what she feels like doing.
She enjoys being loved and is hugely loving. This woman has Libra as her Earth sign; love is hard-coded into her body. When she is loved for herself, mistakes, flaws and all, and when she can love authentically and impulsively, she is happy.
This Relationship Is Never Boring
At first it is uncomfortable for the Aquarius man to love a woman so full of herself, so resistant to being what he wishes her to be. If he is a true Aquarius, he soon grows to appreciate her unpredictability and loves her even more. If he has a strong Capricorn component he may try to control her, but that is a losing battle. An Aries girl has no trouble breaking off a relationship if it doesn't work for her. She rebels against his ideals and that is hard for him, but it is also exciting to be so out of control. Aquarius hates to be bored and Aries is never boring.
He should never assume that he knows her. She creates herself anew all the time and cannot be known, she can only be discovered. The Aquarius man in love with an Aries woman should approach her as if she is a new continent, brimming with mystery. He needs to let her lead the way into her depths and to define herself, without insisting she conform to her own self-definition. She is an experiment in progress, and the longer he knows her, the more of her there is to know.
Aquarius in Unrequited Love
If the Aries woman does not return his feelings, Aquarius cannot change his heart; it is too strong, too constant. He remains fixed upon his lodestar, and if this is a woman, she continues to be the light of his life even at a distance. He will carry the torch of love's ideal and need never be disappointed by the real woman's flaws and messy humanity. If his Aries love does not return his feelings, Aquarius' heart will not break and neither will it change. Even if he finds a new relationship, his former loves will remain enshrined and glowing in his memory. He isn't the sort to demean himself with begging or drama, but neither will he surrender his love which is always (to him) True Love.
How to Love an Aries Woman
In a relationship, an Aries woman need not be pampered, but she needs to be respected. She can never submit to a secondary role in a relationship but insists on full partnership rights. This woman does not wish to be swept off her feet, and she will fight any man who tries. She has her own strong feet and legs, and may even try to reverse the roles.
Of course, she will make mistakes, many of them, for that is how she learns. When her mate, who knows things, attempts to help by preventing her making a mistake, she is insulted. Naturally, she does not believe it is a mistake so she won't listen, and if he is proved right, she is humiliated. He should take a hands-off approach and be there for her to help process the aftermath of her error and never say "I told you so." Just as often though she will succeed against all odds, in ways he could not have predicted. This keeps him fascinated and ever more in love.
How to Love an Aquarius Man
The Aries woman must be herself, at all costs, but she need not fight the ideal. She should allow her Aquarius lover to view her through his rosy glasses and say, "Yes, I am capable of that, that is me at my best." She should not attempt to live up to the ideal, however. She must be all that she is, and that includes the ideal, but should not be not limited by it. She must let the pictures float by and disappear and continue to be a mystery to be discovered.
He will continue to define her, because that is how his mind works, but she needn't conform to his definitions. She must lead by refusing to change to suit his image of her. If she does change herself to fit him she is doomed to fail, for her Aries nature is irrepressible. Her authentic self will rage to the surface and fight off whatever is trying to change it, and that can destroy the relationship.
She is responsible for herself and no one can stop her unless she does it herself. Like everything she learns in life, she will make mistakes before she gets this right. When that happens, she needs first to forgive herself. When she does, she bounces back to her essential nature, and all is well in her world.
Air and Fire Are Combustible
While compatible, fixed air and cardinal fire can be a volatile combination. Air and fire together are explosive! Depending on other factors unique to each individual, such as Moon and Rising signs, an Aries woman and an Aquarius man can be a stimulating and evolving combination or they can be mutually destructive. If the relationship lasts long at all, it has a good chance to last forever. If it is doomed to end, that will be obvious early on. When it works it is amazing!
Sex Is Hot
Air and fire are a hot combination for sexy times. The Aquarius man is not very libidinous as this is one of the less sexually driven signs. However, he has a Leo Earth, and so his body's needs are strong and fiery. When he directs his attention away from the sky and into his skin, he will find his fires stoked by his Aries love. She is passionate as befits a fire sign, and highly receptive to intimacy in bed. Her Libra Earth makes her respond well to loving caresses and deep eye contact. Both should focus on bringing their attention into their bodies and breathing; practicing tantra could be beneficial in this relationship.
There Are Possibilities Here
This combination, at its best, can be amazing and last forever. The key is that they need time apart and acceptance for differences. Aries needs space to be herself and she craves independent pursuits while Aquarius is a group-minded individual who thrives on community activities and working together with like-minded spirits. Aquarius and Aries can do wonderfully together, and once they become accustomed to one another's needs and accept the other's unique gifts, they can be both best friends and powerful soulmates. This can be the love that expands without limit and grows stronger with the years.