Aries and Cancer Lovers' Compatibility

Patricia Lantz C.Ht.
Contributor: Kelly Roper
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The personality traits of Aries and Cancer as lovers are very different. An Aries falls in love spontaneously, but can also fall out of love just as quickly and move on. Cancer is cautious in love, but when they do fall in love, they grab on and are not quick to let go. As astrological signs, Aries and Cancer are not astrologically compatible, but people are not signs. With understanding, an Aries and a Cancer can be very complimentary lovers.

How Aries Cancer Lovers View Each Other

It's said that love is blind, and it's true that cupid's arrow can lead Aries and Cancer to believe when they first meet that they have met their perfect match, when, in fact, their love affair is likely to be a challenging growth experience that can change them both. But then, both Aries and Cancer are up for the challenge.

Aries' View of Cancer

At first meeting, Cancer personalities give the impression of being quietly self-confident. Crabs, the symbol for Cancer, is good at presenting this image; it's the hard exoskeleton that protects their soft, vulnerable underbellies. A Cancer's outward appearance gives Aries the impression they've found a solid independent partner, only later will Aries realize there's an ultra-sensitive, needy, and clingy core at the heart of a Cancer's personality.

Cancer's View of Aries

Aries are typically independent extroverts, who are secure in their strong, independent selves. Aires' strength attracts a security seeking Cancer personality like a moth to a flame. Unfortunately, eventually, Aries' independent, go-it-alone nature can leave a Cancer with a feeling of doubt and insecurity about the relationship.

Mismatched Sexual Energies?

When it comes to dating and sex Aries/Cancer can seem to be a total mismatch, but sex is likely a win-win for both.

Sexual Aries

Aries is all about the thrill of the chase, they approach sex with gusto and don't take it too seriously. In bed, they are lusty, passionate, physical, aggressive, and a bit selfish. Sex is all about the thrill of the moment; foreplay and afterglow are last things on their mind. Instant gratification is what an Aries is all about. You could say that sex can be like a one-way street that leads to Aries.

Sexual Cancer

Cancer is shy and traditional and feels sex is an opportunity to exchange tender expressions of love. However, to a Cancer, sex is also about giving their partner pleasure. Satisfying their partner's sexual needs is more important than their satisfaction. Once again sex can seem like a one-way street that leads to Aries.

Penetrating an Aries' Heart

Aries natural tendency to pursue what they want with laser-focused fervor makes it easy for a typically cautious Cancers to get swept up in the thrill of romance. It might seem as if it's all about bold Aries when it comes to being lovers, but Cancers are intuitively intelligent, just as strong-willed as Aries, and can read people in no time.

Cancers Give to Get

A Cancer seems to know that when an Aries fall in love, they become softer, more loving, giving, protective, and can't seem to get enough of their lover, which is exactly what a Cancer wants. They are attuned to the immediacy and physicality of their Aries lover and are also willing to compromise, even manipulate, to get their wants and needs met. So, they match their lover's fervor and give them what they want and need. It's a Cancer's willingness to follow Aries' lead that penetrates an Aries' heart and makes their love affair work.

Different Wants and Needs

Cancer and Aries have different psychological wants and needs. Aries is an extrovert and Cancer is an introvert. Neither is right or wrong, and both are equally strong-willed, but each lives their life differently.

  • A Cancer needs intimacy, deep caring, sensitive exchanges of feeling, emotional security, roots, home, family, and lots of nurturing behavior going both ways. They'll also do whatever it takes to get their wants and needs met.
  • An Aries needs the independence to be, say, think, go, and do what they want to make their mark on the world. An Aries is a bit naïve and self-centered when it comes to love, and they aren't naturally attuned to the subtle emotional nuances of interpersonal exchanges.
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Different but Complimentary

Due to the way each navigates life, there will be challenges in a Cancer/Aries love affair, but overall Aries and Cancer might not be as incompatible as they seem. They complement each other in ways that can help bring out a side that each has, but couldn't do on their own.

  • A Cancer can challenge the impulsivity, audacity, and superficiality of an Aries, and help them learn to slow down, be more thoughtful, gentle, and loving.
  • An Aries can challenge Cancer's moodiness, bring them out of their protective shell and lead them to be more lighthearted, optimistic, and daring.

When both play to their strengths, they can also balance each other out, each contributing a different but complementary skill set.

Overcoming Difficulties

Everyone wants their lover to fulfill their wants and needs, but sometimes the most fulfilling relationships are those where the individuals struggle through the challenges and learn to embrace the other's world. An Aries and Cancer relationship is one of those. The only way for these two to overcome their difficulties is for each to recognize, understand and respect the differences; then meet each other halfway, negotiate, and make compromises for the other.

Sun Signs Offer a Sneak-Peek

While Sun sign astrology can be fun, it offers nothing more than a sneak-peek of the whole. The Sun is important, but it must be considered within the context of the entire horoscope and life. When to comes to love, professional astrologers place emphasis on the Moon, Venus, and Mars. Is it a fling or forever? When looking for longevity, they look to Saturn. In order for relationship astrology to be truly accurate and meaningful, an astrologer needs complete birth data, as well as gender and a bit of each individual's life history.

Aries and Cancer Lovers' Compatibility