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Hi Anne,

Thank you for taking the time to share with us here. If you ever have a question, please feel free to write us back!

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

Thanks for this article- especiallye explaining the space need- that it is moer about him than the woman. Very helpful!

-- Contributed by: Anne

Hi Confused,

As a Virgo, I know that you must be very giving of yourself, but what kind of relationship do you want from him? You mentioned that both he and you have dated others over the past two years, so is this just a casual relationship?

And if it is, when did you decide that you wanted more? Have you told him that you want a more serious relationship? Please write back and we'll try to help.

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

Hello - I am a virgo who has been seeing (never formally dating) a capricorn man for almost 2 years. There have been multiple times when things seemed to be going so well and then he pushes me away again. We have both dated other people here and there throughout this time but neither of us have got into serious relationships.

He calls me when he is stressed out about things, he tells me I relax him and he is comfortable with me, he confides in me. These all seem like good signs but he continues to also say things that lead me to believe that this will never develop into what I want, such as how he is just not ready to settle and still feels like there is lots left he wants to do in his life (he is in his early 30's).

Sometimes he pursues me and then other times he will disappear for weeks. I have never felt so lost in my life as I do when it comes to him.

I would have given up a long time ago except that he is absolutely the best person I have ever met. He inspires me to be better and gives me such encouragement. I also know that I could be great for him, supportive and understanding without needing all of his time for myself.

So, does it sound like I am being silly by continuing to put myself through this or is it possible that all of my patience may eventually pay off?

-- Contributed by: confused

First, I really sympathize with you- this is not an easy situation at all. That said, he's a married man (are you also married, or currently single?), and since he has two children with this woman, that means that she will always be in his life. That's something you may want to think about. Rekindled love is a very powerful kind of love. Be cautious.

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

I am a taurus woman who has loved a capricorn man for about 14 years now, much of that time spent apart. We went seperate ways 13 years ago and was just recently reaquainted. Presently he is on his second marriage with 2 children whom he adores. According to him this second marriage isn't working out too well either. After reading all that you posted about capricorn men, I see him exactly and after listening to his complaints, I see how she is doing the things that is making him run. So he has confided in me. We have really built up a bond just thru phone conversations. My love has be reignited and I truly believe that I am in his heart and mind. The problem is the fact that he is married, she is my same sign, she looks like me, or at least how I looked 13 years ago. And because she and I are sooo alike, I m afraid it scares him.What position am I in,and what do I do? I love this man like no one on earth, Im afraid to be in a place where he finds comfort and support from me, but, that's all I ever become.

-- Contributed by: Crazy in love

Hi Desperate girl,

First, don't worry so much! I'm sure things will work out fine. In the meantime, please see these articles, as they might help:

What is your birth date? If you give us your birth date, and his, I can look at the charts for you. Thank you for the post!

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

hi,i'm dating with a capricorn guy right now and i wish to have some more advise on how to keep him.. he's a great guy and i don't want to lose him..

-- Contributed by: desperate girl...

Hi Capi,

There really is no excuse for him calling you names. All that does is tell me that he has poor impulse control and a lack of maturity. I know that we all get frustrated, but he certainly can't be blaming you when things go wrong. Maybe he's upset that you are studying abroad and broadening your life and your outlook. Who knows? Why is such a smart, nice person like yourself even wasting your time with him? How long have the two of you been together?

I think one of the best things you can do is to tell him calmly, and rationally, that you're a terrific catch (I can see that because you're obviously very considerate of his feelings) and that you now know it, and that if he can't treat you with the respect you deserve (no more calling you names/blaming you when things don't go right), then he can hit the door.

Does he ever act like that in person with you? If he does, he may actually have a real temper problem and we all know that that can get out of hand really quickly. Its better that you know this now, so that you can meet some other really terrific guy while you're studying (perhaps someone who has the same interests as you do?).

Don't kick him to the curb just yet. Explain to him how his actions make you feel, ask him what you can do on your part to help him overcome his frustrations, and listen to what he says. If he sounds like a five-year old, I hate to say this, but you may have to leave him.

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

Hi Jacqueline,

Thanks for responding this fast to my comment. I feel as though I can never make him understand me, no matter how hard i try. Often he asks for space to reflect his thoughts and to find himself again, which I guess is ok, but whats the point when we already have a distance relationship? The reason for the distance is because I am studying abroad.

I just want him to put some value on me and not take me for granted. It has reached the point for me where I feel as though nothing I do is good enough for him and he never can admit being wrong about things when he really hurts me.. You are right about letting things go and letting the tension cool down..

Its just that, well.. Its hard and its heart-breaking. I dont know really.. I feel so hopeless. Maybe he doesnt love me or maybe he feels its going to fast.. All i can really say is that I am a kind girlfriend and i have shown my kindness in every possible way.

Another thing, he has a temper. When he gets mad over something ( smallest thing) he can start with really bad name callings and manipulate the situation and twist things around making them look like its my fault. There are so many different expamples of bad things he can do towards me. But deep inside I know he is a good guy. I just dont know why he cant be that good most of the times. He is very sentimental and shows all of his emotions when he is drunk and calls me late at nights to express his feelings and gratitud for me, but immediatly the next mornings he is back to being himself again..

I dont know really what to do with all this.. Is the best thing to back out and let him realize what he has before he loses it?

Thanks once again

-- Contributed by: Capi

Hi Capi,

I'm so sorry that you're in such a frustrating situation! I know how difficult and helpless it feels to be in love with someone who just seems to take you for granted. That said, one of the best things you can do is just let the situation go (not let go of him, but let go of the desperation you feel about him). That's because anything born out of that kind of feeling almost always ends badly.

Instead, don't shut yourself off from others (including other potential romantic mates). After all, there comes a point, no matter how great the guy, when he needs to put up or get out. That may sound a bit harsh, but it's really true. Here's what I want you to do:

Keep your schedule full.
Keep up your interests.
Don't stop growing as a person.

Why is this relationship long distance? Is he away from work? In the army? That of course would a put a new spin on things. Please write us back and tell us a little more and we'll try to help. In the meantime, good luck to you!

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

I am a capricorn female and I am in a relationship ( long distance) with a capricorn male. Above mentioned descriptions of how a capricorn male is was almost 110% descriptions of my man. Its very difficult for me, although i am being so patient with him, to sustain in our relationship without recieving much affection and always having to be strong for both of us. I feel as though i am putting more effort in this than he is. I feel weak, although i know i am very strong. I dont want to lose him, but feel like things are not going our way because he is very affirmed in his character, very strong and stable in a way where i feel very recessive in comparisson to him. How can I make this work from my side? He is an amazing fella. And I love him. we are both young, 25 and 26, and mature. But knowing that I have already been supportive, loyal and given him the space he wants and shown all these things, what is it that I am doing wrong or should be doing for him to actually see all these things and appreciate me? What can i do to make him not take me for granted? Because that is what he seems to do. I´ve become so predictable for him. And I am desperate to change that. With other people I dont open up much, but I have opened up a lot to him.. was that wrong of me? Any adice please? thanks for this great site

-- Contributed by: capi

Hi Daisy,

Thanks of adding that comment here- we really appreciate it! If you ever have a question, please feel free to post it.

-- Contributed by: Jacqueline Dautaj

everything that described a capricorn man is true.

-- Contributed by: daisy
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