A smart, charming Libra woman and a dreamy, mysterious Pisces man don't seem like the most natural combination in the Zodiac. Cardinal air Libra and mutable water Pisces are different, yet they share many traits. If they adapt to their differences, they can love one another very well.
Libra Is in Love With Love
When it comes to love, no one approaches with the same commitment and intention as a Libra. Ruled by Venus, the Goddess of Love, a Libra woman wears her romantic heart on her sleeve, seeking the perfect soulmate with every beat of her heart. Until she finds him she is unfinished, not real to herself, a mere reflection. Ultimately, though, any love she finds 'out there' can only serve as a prosthetic for the hole in her own heart.
Libra often directs her need for love toward social justice, fighting for fairness, and equality. She loves beauty and harmony; she is beautiful inside and out though that is hard for her to know without the mirror of another's admiration. Her famous vanity is born of insecurity, depending on her beloved to let her know she is beautiful and lovable. When she is insecure, she tends to play mind games with her mate and test his love to the detriment of the relationship. Her growth depends on her solar opposite Earth sign, Aries, which challenges her to stand up for herself to put her own needs first (at least sometimes).
Pisces, One With Everything
No one is happier alone than the Pisces man. He needs a lot of time by himself to separate his own perceptions and feelings from those of others. Highly sensitive to emotions, the Neptune-ruled Pisces man escapes whenever life becomes 'too much.' It is helpful for him to develop a meditation practice to find a balance in himself with the vast, overwhelming universe, which feels like part of himself. The immature Pisces man seeks oblivion through substance abuse or other addictions. A Pisces may be drawn to social media because it helps him feel connected without having to be around people, or he may be repelled by the soullessness of modern technology. His strongest need is to let go periodically and be mindless for a while, whether through meditation, solitary walks, or television. His growth depends on his solar opposite Earth sign, Virgo. Ultimately, he must come to his senses, to take care of his health and body and to center himself in the world.
Though their approaches could not be more different, Libra and Pisces do share qualities in common. Pisces lives in a romantic, hazy dream in which reality flows and ebbs mysteriously. For Pisces, empathy means being caught up in others' emotions, unable to tell the difference between his own and theirs. Libra perceives the emotions of others as if they were music. Disharmonious energies and conflict jangle on her sensitivities and distress her, but she knows exactly where they come from. She can discern and judge the balance and truth of any situation while Pisces gets too easily caught up in the current. Their romantic heart is where they meet; she loves his sensitivity and attunement while he appreciates her tact and care for the needs of others. Both are sensitive, tuned to others needs and feelings, and complement one other well.
Because they are both so skilled at sensing the feelings others, they easily adapt to their different styles. Getting along with one another is not a problem, for they both bend over backward, like the polite gophers in the old cartoons, to accede to the other's wishes and needs. Neither is good at decisions, however, and this is where they run into problems. Libra is famous for her indecisive nature and prefers to play harmonizer and peacemaker. She hesitates to take the lead in any situation; she must claim her Aries gifts to gain self-determination and the ability to act decisively. Similarly, Pisces must step into the abilities of his own Earth sign, Virgo, to gain discrimination and make appropriate, timely choices.
Libra responds to set and setting in lovemaking. She needs to look her best with the right lighting and music to set the mood. For her, sex is a way to express love and commitment, and it can either feed her vanity or threaten her insecurity. In a moment, she might go from yes to no and back again. A more earthy and decisive man might be frustrated, but Pisces simply responds. His mutable sensitivity ensures that if she is not in the mood, then neither is he. He needs the attunement, and pretence is futile. Sometimes a Libra woman will pretend to be in the mood to please him, but a Pisces man wilts in response, since he cannot be fooled. At those times they are in sync, magic happens. Libra's exquisitely tuned sense of harmony combined with Pisces' surrender to oceanic flow translates into rapturous bliss! Don't push the river, though, because if it is not good, it doesn't work at all.
Tips To Make It Better
So how can you ignite this pairing?
You can't possibly give her too much.
- When you withdraw into your alone world, as you will, come back to her in ways she can't ignore.
- When the road is rocky and you seem to be oceans apart, you can bridge that gap with just a little effort. Make time for regular date nights with candlelight, flowers, and wine; tell her she is beautiful, that she is a wonderful, intelligent, loving person (all true); don't hold back your love.
- Use your limitless imagination to come up with new ways to make her feel loved. This lady's heart will open like a flower to love notes and poetry, appreciative words, compliments, and romantic getaways.
This man is a treasure, sensitive and open. Do not shame him for that!
- Know you have the power to crush him and don't do it. If you hurt or shame him, he will withdraw from you into his own world. He is okay being alone, he doesn't need you or anyone else, and he cannot tolerate cruelty.
- If you want to keep him in your life, appreciate him for who he is. While he has many strengths and gifts, toughness is not one of them. He may seem like a wimp to those who don't understand the vast reserves of wisdom, sensitivity, and inspiration he brings to the table. If you can appreciate him for that and respect his ways, it will strengthen the bond of your love.
- If he cries (and he can), hold him in your arms and let your heart open to receive the sensitive flow of vulnerable emotion. It will enrich your life.
The Chance for Lasting Love
If they love one another, these two transcend any differences and challenges. Because both place the needs of the other before their own, they can each become martyrs to love, and the relationship then dissolves in a blob of codependency and martyrdom. They must each grow to develop backbone and inner strength in order to succeed together. With commitment to personal growth and the power of love, they can last forever.