Virgo in Marriage

Patricia Lantz C.Ht.
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Virgos are often stereotyped as being critical, obsessive-compulsive nitpickers whose best attribute is being a worker. While it's true they aren't as mesmerizing as a Scorpio, as charming like Libra, as showy as a Leo, or as quirky as an Aquarian, and so on, they have many excellent mutable earth qualities. They can deflect and adapt, plus they want to make life easier and better for everyone, and those aren't bad qualities to have in a marriage partner. It's quality over quantity for Virgo, which makes them very good prospects for long-term committed relationships like marriage.

A Virgo Spouse

A Virgo mate will be modest, sensitive, shy, and have a sweet and kind nature, but they won't be the most passionate or romantic of marriage partners. They're inclined toward introversion; they prefer a quiet, orderly life; and they have a cool, calm, and collected exterior. They are self-sufficient individuals who can amuse themselves and don't require a lot of attention. As a matter of fact, a Virgo mate never wants to be the center of attention and has a distaste for splashy public displays of affection or dramatic public scenes.

Highly organized, routine oriented, and fiscally prudent, a Virgo husband or wife can be relied upon to manage both the home and the family finances exceptionally efficiently. However, while they may be happy to shell out for high-quality, durable items that are practical and useful, spending on "unnecessary" luxuries is another story. A Virgo typically expects their marriage partner to be reliable, practical, reserved, understated, motivated to establish good routines, and to lead a healthy, healthy, active life.

At their best, a Virgo spouse can be:

  • Loyal and loving
  • Gentle, wise, honest, and fair
  • A rational and reliable helpmate who can come up with solutions to almost any problem

At their worst a Virgo spouse can be:

  • A perfectionist who's overly critical and harsh
  • Fussy and naggy
  • Aloof and over-demanding

The Virgo Husband

A Virgo husband is faithful and works hard to provide for his family. He's clean and tidy and doesn't mind helping out around the house. He's not possessive, but he's not particularly passionate or romantic either. However, he will serve and be dedicated to his wife as long as their relationship is meaningful and filled with trust.

Although he's exceptionally hard-working, status and recognition aren't particularly important to him, so should his wife be a career woman, he won't mind taking a backseat role in a marriage and is less likely than most men to feel emasculated if his wife's career eclipses his own.

His perfect wife would be:

  • Gentle and sensitive
  • Not into surface charm and style
  • Quiet and understated

The Virgo Wife

A Virgo wife is thoughtful, intelligent, compassionate, and caring. She's incredibly reliable, practical, and willing to sacrifice for the greater good of her family. She's meticulous and constructively critical but gentle and never loud or domineering.

Whether she's a stay at home wife or a career woman, around the home she's a fixer and a doer who pays attention to details, knows what needs to be done, and goes about it in an orderly efficient fashion. She's a feminine woman who never competes with her husband and is loyal and trustworthy but not easily intimidated.

Her perfect husband would be:

  • Strong and confident
  • Protective and loyal
  • Solid and unwavering

Virgo in the Bedroom

In the bed a Virgo mate, like all earth signs, is sensuous and has a pronounced love of the physical. However, they are fastidious and are not into demonstrative displays of emotions or anything over the top. As in everything in their marriage,showing love to their partner is about actions not just words.

What's essential for their mate to know is the emphasis they place on the details of making love and their fascination with technique. They fret a lot about getting things just right, especially where sex is concerned, but that's to the advantage of their partner. As it is said, practice makes perfect. However, they can also get into a routine - if it's working why change it- and this can become a problem with their marriage partner.

Virgos are big worriers, can get a bit uptight about sex and have great anxieties about their performance. So, it will be up to their spouse to praise, congratulate, and tell them how amazing they are, and to add a bit of spontaneity and variety.

Marriage Problems

A Virgo spouse has a constant drive to improve and perfect everything and everybody, and this can lead to seemingly constant critiques. The problem is they are such perfectionists, they can't help worrying about all those trivial little things their mates don't think are very important. Although they mean well and their intent is to be helpful, a Virgo partner's domestic pickiness will definitely get on their partner's nerves and if their spouse doesn't know how to handle this, it's likely to start problems in the marriage.

The best advice for someone who's married to a Virgo is this: Clean up your act, have a sense of humor, and don't make a big deal out of their nit-picking and criticisms. Though it may not be important to you, it's important to them. Try to understand it's just their way of trying to help and make everything better.

Most important of all, if you can resolve problems and conflicts in a rational, loving, gentle, and private manner, it will be easier on both of you.

Virgo Parents

Virgo parents have lofty standards for their children. They expect them to toe the line and be well mannered. While Virgos are not natural born parents, they freely give their time and attention and are highly conscientious about fulfilling their parental duties and responsibilities. They teach their children to meet their responsibilities, take care of their possessions, the importance of doing well in school, and of leading a leading a healthy life.

Problems can arise, however, if a Virgo parent sets the bar a little too high for his kids, which can sometimes lead children to feel that no matter how hard they try, they're never quite good enough. The most important thing a Virgo parent needs to remember is to be generous with compliments and praise when their child does well and to be as free with their affection as they are with critical feedback or disapproval.

Best Matches for Virgo

The best astrological matches for Virgo are with fellow earth signs Taurus, and Capricorn or the water signs of Scorpio and Cancer. Things get a little trickier with Pisces or another Virgo. There's likely to be a lot of attraction but not a lot of staying power.

The fire signs, Aries, Leo, and Sagittarius, as well as the air signs, Libra, Gemini, and Aquarius, are all a bit out of sync with the Virgo personality. However, that doesn't mean that a successful relationship is impossible; it just means it might take a little extra work.

Two people with seemingly incompatible sun signs may have highly compatible rising signs or moon signs, and this can make what might seem like a problematic match a good marriage match. It often takes a few challenges keep a marriage exciting.

More Than Just Virgo

The reason some individuals don't act like their zodiac Sun sign is that everyone is much more. An accurate horoscope is important because it shows the entire personality. The Sun is the central defining aspect of the personality, but the Moon and the planets, as well as other important points, also affect the personality. Plus, the astrological aspects can create inner challenges to their pure expression. There's also each individuals life experiences, culture, and age to consider, an older, more experienced Virgo often expresses their Virgo tendencies differently than a young Virgo.

Married to a Virgo

Of course, a Virgo marriage partner will dish out critiques and while their motives are pure and the evaluations are most often done eloquently and accurately, they are sure to ruffle a mate's feathers occasionally. A Virgo has high standards and expectations of their mate, but if a Virgo has chosen you to be their mate, it means you've passed their test, and that should be all proof you need to know that you're the "one" for them.

Virgo in Marriage