How Do You Win the Heart of a Sagittarius Man

Ann Roberts
Couple in love

Sagittarius, the centaur archer, is the great adventurer of the zodiac. This high-energy idealist is always looking for new worlds to discover. The optimistic and often spiritual nature of a Sagittarius draws people toward him, but for those wondering how to win the heart of a Sagittarius man, the answer can pose a challenge.

At First Glance

Your first impediment to winning your Sagittarius man will be to grasp his attention for more than a moment. Sagittarians are very active individuals, both mentally and physically. The fire element that fuels Sagittarius constantly propels this sign towards fresh goals and endeavors. Combine this high-octane persona with masculine energy and you nearly double the assertion of the fire element.

How do you capture the attention of a man who is constantly on the move?

  • First, attract your Sagittarius with whatever physical assets you have. Play up your eyes, pronounce your figure, and keep your smile white and wide.
  • Fire signs are heavily driven by the passion of the moment, so don't become too deeply immersed in his conversational abilities. Intrigue him, don't engage him fully.
  • Be capable of change. Your personality should never seem like a dead end. Instead, reveal yourself in layers, such that he never feels he knows you completely.
  • Fire signs love challenges and he should feel challenged to keep your attention, even though you are attempting the same scheme.

Successfully at Your Side

Devoted couple holding hands

So you have his attention, and he may have asked you out. Attempting to reel a Sagittarius into a long-term commitment will rest on numerous factors such as:

  • His upbringing and understanding of relationships
  • The competition of other people or projects

Some Sagittarians will naturally make the move into a long-term or committed relationship because this is within their cultural frame of reference. Fire signs are not necessarily afraid of marriage. However, they are afraid of being stifled, and even the sweet Sagittarius male who has devoted himself to a partner will struggle more with the "devotion" aspect of the relationship rather than the partnership.

This is because there are simply so many factors competing for his attention. Work, activism, pet projects, friends, people to meet--all of these obstacles are at war for your Sagittarius' time. Sagittarius also tends to be a traveler, and being stuck in one place for long will deteriorate his zeal for life. This doesn't mean that all hope for a committed relationship is lost, however.

Go with Him

This is the cold reality of any woman vying for a Sagittarius male: the old axiom that "if you can't beat them, join them."

Adventurous Sagittarius man and his girlfriend

Attempting to harness your Sagittarian will only result in the breakdown of his soul and, thus, the breakdown of your relationship. So get ready to:

  • Travel with him
  • Make his hobbies your hobbies
  • Take an interest in his interests
  • Engage in an active social life

The Elements at Play

Sagittarius is an active type. For this reason, he tends to be most compatible with effusive fire signs and gregarious air signs. Water and earth-dominant individuals just can't keep up with the pace and end up feeling drained by Sagittarius' antics.

If you're aiming to catch a Sagittarius male, you'll need to evaluate your strengths ahead of time and see if a highly social and even globe-trotting life will enhance your dreams or annihilate them.

Crippling Your Efforts

If you're not up to the task of snagging a fire sign, tread carefully because there are numerous ways to squelch your efforts such as:

Overly Domestic

Any Sagittarian male will appreciate a home-cooked meal, but if you are truly an indoor type, you won't keep his interest for long. Sagittarius men want to be out as much as possible, and too many Netflix nights will kill the energy of your relationship.

Negative Conversation

Negative woman confronting her Sagittarius partner

Sagittarian males are optimists and, frequently, idealists. They want to better the world and they are more oriented toward finding solutions than spotting problems. Problems abound but the act of constantly looking at problems is too demoralizing for a Sagittarian. Keep your conversations geared to the solvable and helpful, and you won't push your potential lover away.

Inhibiting his Freedom

Even when in a committed relationship, a Sagittarian male needs the illusion of freedom. If he wants to take on a new project or take a spontaneous road trip, you won't want to get in the way of these plans. Relationships with fire and air signs often lead to suspicions of infidelity, so make sure you've dealt with any trust issues before investing yourself in such types.

Losing Yourself to the Sagittarius Male

The philosophy of "can't beat them, join them" should be geared towards keeping your interests aligned with his. However, this does not mean you drastically revamp your personality. Sagittarius, like all fire signs, thrives on challenge, and if you are too available and too compliant, you are more likely to inspire boredom than awe. You will attract your Sagittarius man through intrigue and the process of actualization. He needs to feel that getting to know you is somehow akin to solving a great mystery.

So, keep some of yourself to yourself at all times. Your Sagittarius male will appreciate the side of you he sees, and constantly wonder about the side he can't see. By playing this situation properly, you may become the most valuable project of his lifetime.

How Do You Win the Heart of a Sagittarius Man